Is it just me or are more women waiting around for Mr. Right? Could it be the over abundance of women in the world? Or could it be that while our mothers were burning their bras the men were burning their briefs. It is almost as if when women, said we want more opportunities than just getting married and pumping out babies, that men said well if you want options then I get them too damnit! And if I really think about how many couples I see that are really, truly in love, in all honesty there aren’t many. Most of them look like they settled right into it, and those folks are the ones that end up divorced after two kids and the house in the suburbs. I am sure everyone has friends like these, you know the people that are college sweethearts. I know this sounds bad but I would stack their years of togetherness and supposed love, against a man who cheated on his wife and then left her for the same woman he cheated with. I mean think about it, he actually took the time to deconstruct the life that he had carefully planned with another. Now I am not saying that true love can only be born out of sacrifice, or that you can’t recognize it if you haven’t felt the pain of rejection, in any form, whether from a no-call dude or a man who has walked away. But you have to admit it certainly makes it easier to recognize.
I think the rest of us that are here in this waiting room are the ones that are waiting for the fairytale. So is it better to be in the waiting room or one of the settlers?
Honestly I have no idea, but what I do know is that I am done waiting, I am done thinking about this problem. Maybe I will die with 50 dogs and cats, but it has to be better than the hell of deconstructing your life with someone that you settled for. And for those of you settlers that are sleeping on a Sunday night, while I tap away on my laptop, I know you think you got the better end of the stick. But I would also bet that you didn’t get laid and that your wife or husband has their back to you and you to them. At the end of the day as I snuggle down with my cat and dog, at least I know the only thing that would make them leave is death, because lets face it there love is the easiest unconditional love anyone will ever find or have.
So in my first post of the new year, Good Luck to both the settlers and the waiting room crowd, because like the Obama campaign I believe in Change as well.
2 comments:
It is far better not to settle, and be alone, than to be in a miserable relationship, I agree 100%. You are right about not seeing many couples in love. I used to look at all of my friends that were in relationships, and think how miserable they all were…It’s so not worth it. I would much rather be alone, and content, than to sleep next to someone that makes me unhappy.
Settle or not to settle ? I don't think anyone starts up a relationship with the intention of settling... People change and relationships need to change with them. Being alone is settling with the fact that you can't find someone you're willing to take a risk on in my book. A dog or cat is a poor excuse for those that have shut themselves up in their own self made purgatory. What's up with that?!
If someone is miserable, at least they have the choice of trying or moving on, it's the inaction of those that are miserable that keep them in their misery. All of you out there that are miserable are not in fact settling, but simply giving up. Any two people that give up and stick around deserve each other and the "miserable relationship" they created.
And as for being alone ? Yes, some people are better at being alone and living with 50 flea-bags since they gotta' have something they can depend that in depends on them - how lovely - an animal with unconditional love tied to Kibbles and Bits bag !!
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